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An NNS Valentine’s Day: After 30 years, North Side couple are still learning new things about their relationship

February 12, 2021 by Ana Martinez-Ortiz 5 Comments

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Venice Williams and Demetrius Brown know from experience that for a relationship to work, it needs a healthy foundation. (Photo provided by Venice Williams)

Starting a relationship can be hard, but maintaining a relationship requires real effort and work.

Venice Williams and Demetrius Brown understand this better than most.

This past year has brought them closer, while also forcing them to re-examine the strengths and weaknesses in their relationship.

“The pandemic has allowed us to take a closer look at ourselves,” Demetrius said. “We’re really getting to know how strong our relationship is and how strong it isn’t.”

The couple, who got together over 30 years ago when Venice first came to Milwaukee, embarked on some new adventures this past year. Demetrius made the decision to retire and Venice opened a store in the Sherman Phoenix, 3536 W. Fond du Lac Ave., called Kujichagulia Producer’s Cooperative.

These two developments have allowed the couple to spend more time together, Demetrius said, both at the store and in Alice’s Garden, 2136 N. 21st St.

“During this past growing season, the garden became a place of safety and healing and hope,” Venice said.

The programs and attendees quadrupled, she said. It became a place to be where people could process the coronavirus pandemic and the Black Lives Matter movement. The garden became an essential place for Demetrius, in particular.

“I think going through my personal transitioning, I really saw how effective it was to bring more community in,” he said.

He also learned how patient Venice is.

“Through some of my trials and retiring and changing my situation around, she’s been very patient with me,” he said. “I didn’t realize her patience was as strong as it is.”

One of the keys to their relationship is facing the challenges and the obstacles together.

“We hang in there,” Venice said. “We go through it and not around it. We pray together and we listen to music together. We back up a little bit. We can’t take everything as seriously as it seems in the moment.”

Venice explained knowing when it is time to take something head on and when it is time to let it rest is essential to any relationship.

“You’re not dismissing it, but now is not the moment,” she said. “We will address it, but right now, we’re going to back off and do something else.”

When there’s a challenge, the two discuss it and come up with a mutual agreement on how to move forward, Demetrius said.

Recently, the couple spent three days in Lake Geneva. It’s important to claim relationship time, Venice said, adding that it’s something they plan to be more intentional about in the future. This time next year, they hope to be in South Africa for a long-awaited trip.

Individuals should know what it means to be an anchor for their partner and what a healthy foundation looks like, Venice said. Having a healthy foundation and making one’s home a sanctuary filled with nourishment and support and a sense of belonging is critical.

“Understand what the foundation of your relationship is,” Venice said. “Be honest why it is that you are together and why you remain together. Keep coming back to that.”

“Make sure you want to stay together and what that means,” Demetrius added. “You need to know all the elements of what brought you together and how to maintain that to maintain the relationship.”

Read: An NNS Valentine’s Day: ‘There are no separate lives for us’: Love and service go together for North Side couple

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Filed Under: Carousel, Home, Neighborhoods, News Tagged With: coronavirus, covid-features

Ana Martinez-Ortiz

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Ana is the community engagement reporter and beat reporter for neighborhood groups and nonprofits. As the community engagement reporter, Ana is known for writing five things to know/do for the week and weekend, how to articles and spotlight articles. Ana attended the University of Wisconsin-Milwaukee and graduated in 2017 with degrees in Spanish and journalism.

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  1. AvatarRick Deines says

    February 12, 2021 at 9:59 am

    Venice and Demetrius by living into and through all truth and reality, and by not dodging, ignoring or blaming others, they are offering all of us insight and practical ways to build healthy and sustaining life relationships. They put an honest ‘Happy’ into Valentine’s Day. Thank you.

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    • AvatarVenice R. Williams says

      February 12, 2021 at 3:23 pm

      Thank you, Rick! Thst means alot, coming from you. Be well!

      Reply
  2. AvatarSimmone says

    February 12, 2021 at 9:54 pm

    This story is beautiful and inspiring. Thank you for sharing your positive LOVE story as an example of the ingredients needed in a DELICIOUS relationship.

    Reply
  3. AvatarDixie deines says

    February 13, 2021 at 6:57 pm

    Venice and Demetrius,
    Such a good thing that your story and your healthy attitudes can touch so many folks.
    Stay well,

    Reply
  4. AvatarMarijke van Roojen says

    February 14, 2021 at 12:32 pm

    Beautiful story, inspiring insight. Thank you both. Love, Marijke

    Reply

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